Dealing with Guilt over Elderly Care in Houston, TX
“One Daughter Coping with Guilt Not Being Her Mother’s Caregiver in Houston, TX”
The sun rises over the eastern treetops. You’re staring through the window as the colors transform darkness to light. It’s a beautiful start to the day but you have a heavy heart. You have been thinking that you should have agreed to provide elderly care for your mother.
But you are a busy person. You have a lot going on with work and other issues and it simply doesn’t seem that you have the time to devote to providing the right type of elder care services that she needs, at least not right now.
You find that there are days when you already get home late and barely have time to eat a good meal. If you ended up providing elder care services for your mother, then you wouldn’t have any time to do much for yourself and you also don’t think that you could be the right caregiver for her. The last thing you want is for her to be put at risk by not having the right level of care.
Yet as you watch the sun poke through the cover of thinning trees as winter looms on the horizon, you can’t keep the guilty feelings at bay. You keep hearing what she said to you ringing over and over in your mind: you don’t love me, do you? All because you have told her that you’re not the right person to provide elderly care for her.
If you’re feeling guilty, follow some of these steps and they may just help you cope with the emotions with which you’re struggling.
- You’re not responsible for your elderly family members. You don’t owe your mother or father enough to warrant providing elderly care for them when you know that you can’t devote 100 percent to them. You’re not responsible for their well-being.
- Talk to an objective person. Avoid discussing this issue with other family members or friends. Talk to a professional if you need to. He or she will be able to help you realize that you’re doing the right thing by refusing to provide care for them, especially when there are other options.
- Realize that there are other options. You’re not the last line of defense for an elderly individual. They can rely on a professional elderly care provider if they truly need care at home. Too often, family members default to taking on this role when they don’t have to.
If you still feel guilty about not providing elderly care for your loved one, remember that he or she deserves the best care and when you know you can’t provide that, you’re doing the best thing for them, and for you.
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Gary completed his Bachelor’s Degree in Business Management on a full-ride scholarship at North Dakota State University. He returned back to his hometown of Houston & joined the Houston Police Department, putting his life on the line to keep others safe. Currently Gary stays involved with the police force through monthly volunteer work, but his main priority is New Frontier Home Care, where he serves as Marketing Director.
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